Myths & Realities around child sexual abuse series with Chris Tuck
Myths & Realities around child sexual abuse series from a survivors’ perspective with Chris Tuck
This series aims to raise awareness and continue the conversation around child sexual abuse.
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1) Vlog Reel 1 – Introduction Into the Myths & Realities around child sexual abuse series with Chris Tuck.
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2) Vlog Reel 2 – ‘So Who Is Chris Tuck?’…
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3) Vlog Reel 2/2 – ‘Abit More About Me’…
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4) Vlog Reel 3 – ‘What Is The Definition Of A Myth?’…
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5) Vlog Reel 4 – ‘So What Are Myths About?’…
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6) Vlog Reel 6 – ‘Prevalence’
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7) Vlog Reel 7 – ‘Myth 1 Continued – Prevalence’…
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8) Vlog Reel 8 – ‘Myth 1 Continued – Prevalence’…
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9) Vlog Reel 9 Myth 2 – ‘Child Sexual Abuse Is Only Perpetrated In Certain Places’…
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10) Vlog Reel 10 Myth 3 – ‘Child Sexual Abuse is perpetrated by a certain type of person from a certain socio-economic group’…
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11) Vlog 11 Myth 4 Part 1 – ‘Child Sexual Abuse Is Perpetrated By A Certain Type Of Person’…
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12) Vlog 12 Myth 4 Part 2 – ‘Child Sexual Abuse Is Perpetrated By A Certain Type Of Person’…
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13) No 13.
“The Impact of CSA is widely understood..?” Is it?
“It happened years ago; its in the past why are you not over it yet?”
“They are young enough; they will forget”
*My mum left me and my siblings when I was 7 because of domestic violence.
*My dad remarried my step mum they were in a DV relationship. There was abuse in this household. Mental, physical, emotional and sexual.
*Dad was convicted of sexual abuse crimes when I was 11.
*My mum gained custody back of us at this time. She had remarried…an alcoholic abuser. They were in a DV relationship. There was abuse in this household. Mental, physical, emotional and sexual.
*We were known to social services, the Police, our schools.
*We were not protected. We spoke up. Many times. We were failed. Many times.
*We tried to get justice as children, as adults.
*Mothers Day can be and is a hard day for many individuals whose MUM didn’t protect them, whose mum may have been their abuser, whose mum may have been complicit in their abuse.
Do you really think all this trauma can really be left in the past 100%?
Do you really think anyone has a right to say to me or anyone else….”get over it; it happened a long time ago?”
Even though my mum did terrible things, terrible things happened to her as a child too. I don’t condone what she did to my siblings. I even tried to save her many times from her last DV relationship but she would not leave. Could not leave. She died in 2017.
Without any of her children around her. just with her abuser. Our abuser.
A tale to be told another day. All I wanted was a mum who would love, care, nuture and protect us; like all of us do. That was not our reality.
That is what I mourn on Mothers Day. In my head. In my heart.
But I also cherish and celebrate being a mother to my 2 children. Even though I do not always get it right I am proud to have broken the cycle and I try every day to be the best that I can be and I fight for the rights of others even when my trauma shows up. Chris

14) Vlog Reel 14 Myth 5 Part 1 – ‘The Impact of child sexual abuse is widely known’…
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15) Vlog Reel 15 Myth 5 Part 2 – ‘The Impact of child sexual abuse is widely known’…
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16) Vlog Reel 16 Myth 5 Part 3 – ‘The Impact of child sexual abuse is widely known’…
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17) Vlog Reel 17 Myth 5 Part 4 – ‘The Impact of child sexual abuse is widely known’…
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18) Vlog Reel 18 Myth 6 Part 1- “The Impact of CSA is widely understood..?”
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19) Vlog Reel 19 Myth 6 Part 2 – “The Impact of CSA is widely understood..?”
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20) Vlog Reel 20 Myth 6 Part 3
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21) Vlog Reel 21 Myth 7 Part 1 – ‘How some individuals who have been abused may feel’
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22) Vlog Reel 22 Myth 7 Part 2 – ‘How some individuals who have been abused may feel’
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23) Vlog Reel 23 Myth 8 – Those who have been abused; will go on to abuse…
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24) Reel 24 Myth 9 ‘Justice’…..
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25) VReel 25 Myth 10 Part 1 of 3 – ‘Help & Support After Disclosure’…
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26) Reel 26 Myth 10 Part 2 of 3 ‘Help & Support After Disclosure’…..
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27) Myth 10 Part 3 of 3 ‘Help & Support After Disclosure’…
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28) Myth 11 Part 1 of 4 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.If it happened to me I would have done…
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29) Myth 11 Part 2 of 4 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.if it happened to me I would have done…
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30) Myth 11 Part 3 of 4 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.if it happened to me I would have done……
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31) Myth 11 Part 4 of 4 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.if it happened to me I would have done…
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32) Myth 11 Part 5 of 7 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.if it happened to me I would have done…
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33) 33 Myth 11 Part 6 of 7 ‘Why did you not report sooner?.if it happened to me I would have done……
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34) 34 Myth 11 Part 7 of 7 ‘Why did you not report sooner?. If it happened to me I would have done”…
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35) Surely The Non Offending Parent Knew About The Abuse?
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36) Victims Are Given The Right Help And Support?
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37) Surely the child or young person would just say NO to being abused?…
Children and young people do not often know that they are being abused. That what is being done to them is a crime. Some are threatened, some feel it is just ‘normal’ part of their life so why would they speak about it. Some have a gut feeling that its wrong but are silenced by fear of consequences and /or shame. Most do not have the language to use to verbalise or vocalise what is happening to them no matter the circumstances. Many CYP know, trust, like, love the perpetrator and would.not question what was being done to them. Surely someone who loves them would not harm them? Many do not know about ‘consent’ and that they could say No. A child or young person saying ‘No’ might have an impact on the perpetrator it may not. In some cases it has stopped the abuse continuing because the perpetrator was fearful of the child speaking up but in other cases it has fuelled the abuse further. But by teaching the child body awareness, body autonomy, consent we can change the silence & secrecy around child sexual abuse. If perpetrators know that children and young people have the education, the awareness and the ability to speak up more freely and easily it will make some of them think twice about perpetrating. Watching some perpetrators speak about perpetrating they say they pick on the vulnerable children they feel will not speak out and or will not be believed.

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38) It Was Just A One Off It Won’t Hapoen Again!?
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39) Societal Attitudes Have Changed?
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40) Societal Attitudes Have Changed Over Time Part 1
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41) Surely All Young People Know About Healthy v Unhealthy Relationships?
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42) Child Sexual Abuse Is Just A Sexual Act Isnt It?
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43) Children Will Speak Up About Their Abuse Wont They?
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44) Children Make Up Stories Of Abuse?
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45) Children In Care 1…
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46) Children In Care 2…
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47) He / She Is Not A Credible Witness…
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48) Victims Lie About Their Abuse…
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49) Victims Are Lying Because Their Story Keeps Changing…
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50) Victims Are Responsible For Their Abuse…
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51) The Physiological Body Reaction To Abuse…
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52) Perpetrators Love They Child They Have Abused…
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53) Perpetrators Are Treated Better Than Their Victims…
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54) We Should Trust All Adults…
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55) Women & Mothers Do Not Abuse…
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56) Boys Abused By Women…
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57) Ritual and or Satanic Abuse – Does It Exist?
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58) Support : Once a victim speaks up and discloses about their abuse – sexual.assault, rape etc. – the appropriate specialist support will be offered and available straight away?!….
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